Welcoming a New Baby (3)Many stepmothers find they are much more relaxed about issues they used to get worked up about once they have a child and can understand the feelings a biological parent feels. Have a summit meeting with your spouse before the baby is born and work through how you want your baby raised in your stepfamily household.
You’ll have to discuss your parenting styles all over again. If you’re a career woman who has decided to stay home with a new baby, think about ways you can avoid feeling bored, trapped, or stuck. You used to have a lot more freedom when the children in the house were your husband’s kids. It’s common for new mothers to ignore dads after a baby is born, so make sure you and your husband continue to do things together.
Go on dates and have a babysitter come over to watch your child so you and your husband can continue to feel like a team. You still have to present a unified front to all of the children in the house.